It is true that the Nair community in Kerala were essentially warriors who left home immediately after the wedding, the rituals not complicated rather easy to perform. A few of the rituals take place before the wedding and the rest happen during the ceremony and afterwards. Essentially, Chingam is the month in which most of the weddings take place as it is considered auspicious. Typically, matching the horoscope is the precursor to the wedding and even though some of the people do not pay much attention to this ritual, it is the predisposition of the ancestors and the elders in the family and hence is part of Kerala Matrimony. In fact, no wedding is Kerala is finalised without the matching of horoscope. The ceremony of the wedding usually takes place in a temple which is situated near the house of the bride.
- Meeting the bride: It is only after the horoscopes match that the groom along with the parents and other elders in the family goes to meet the bride formally. Whether to celebrate this occasion which is also called Pennu Kanal or not depends on the temperament of the family of the bride. The parents of the bride also visit the house of the groom to take a look a look at the future home of the daughter which is called Veedu Kanal.
- Formal introduction of wedding: As soon as the consent comes from the families of the bride and groom, the formal introduction takes place in the form of engagement ceremony which is also called Vivaha Nishchayam. Exchange of rings signifies this occasion and it can be elaborate.
- Day before the wedding: As part of Kerala Matrimony, a traditional feast is organised before the day of the wedding in which the bride dressed in her best attire which is a sari and jewellery as the groom accompanied by the family arrives at the house of the bride. This ceremony is also called Ayana.
- Seeking the blessing of elders: Just as it happens in other weddings, it is possible to seek the blessings of the elders before the wedding and the thali carrying the mangalsutra is taken to the venue of the wedding. The mangalsutra is tied around the neck of the bride after she seeks the blessings of the elders. This ceremony is organised in temple or the ancestral home of the bride.
- Day of the wedding: This is the most important part of the ceremony in which the people in the home of the bride wait for the arrival of the groom with the traditional music being played at the backdrop. As soon as the groom arrives, the brother of the bride washes the feet and aarti is performed by the ladies. With exchange of garlands and the ceremony of Kaayadan in which the father of the bride officially hands over the groom, the wedding rituals come to completion. After this, the members of both families enjoy the traditional feast or Sadhya which consists of twenty five items which is served on the leaf of plantain.
- Post wedding rituals: As soon as the wedding gets over, it is time for the bride to move towards her new home and the women in the new household welcome her with aarti and she needs to put the right foot into the home carrying the traditional lamp.
The wedding in the Nair community presents different rituals but they are brief. There are little or no religious compulsions in the wedding of this community.
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