A guide to online dating: Beware of traps

Man is a social animal who is always looking for company and love. We as a species rely on company of like minded people to keep us in high spirits. Since time immortal, humans have always found various ways to find that one true love, with whom they would like to grow old and spend the rest of their life. This is especially true in case of our own country, India. If we look at our ancient texts and manuscripts, we often come across stories of lost and found love, which lasted for eternity. From the swayamwars of ancient times to the present day dating and marriage systems, we have come a long way. In today’s rapid age of digitization, even hearing about arranged marriages seems a bit regressive to some. Due to the job and career related constraints, maintaining a balance between personal and professional life seems like a tough task. Even taking out time to meet your beloved on everyday basis seems somewhat impossible.  Hence, in such a scenario, forums like online dating come across as a boon. It is a form of dating which has no time bound restrictions. You can even spend quality time chatting to the partner of your choice into the late night hours. However, like all things, this forum too comes with it’s own side effects. Often we come across news of people getting cheated and duped due to online dating. Despite all it’s benefits, online dating sadly, has become a breeding ground anti-social elements. From personal blackmail to financial loses, there are numerous kinds of booby traps that one can fall prey to while online dating. So, the question that arises in the mind of all is that is there any way, through which we can save ourselves from becoming a victim to online dating frauds? Well, as per cyber experts, there are certain things that one must keep in mind, to ensure safe online dating. These tips are as follows:

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  • Do not give person details initially: The first thing that one must keep in mind is to not divulge too much personal details to the person on the other side during the initial phase of dating. Take time to know the person well and only when you feel safe should you discuss anything about your personal life.
  • Never give out your financial details: Never give your financial details like bank account number, credit or debit card number etc. to the person on the other side. It can land you in a major soup later.
  • Never share personal photographs: Make sure never to share your personal as well as family pictures with the person whom you don’t know well. Such pictures can be morphed and used for anti-social work or even blackmail.
  • Do not share your address or phone number initially: till the time you are not sure whether the person on the other end is serious on pursuing the relationship, it is better not to share your address and phone number.

As they say that it is better to be safe than sorry. Therefore, make it a point to follow online safety rules even while searching for your dating partner online. Best of  luck!

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Does online dating actually work in getting the desired partner

Everyone all over the world is looking for the love of their life. Who doesn’t want a person with whom you can share your inner thoughts, deepest of secrets and feelings without getting judged? However, in present times, where time is money, relationships seem to have taken a backseat. Everyone seems to be in a rush of making a career and future for themselves, where the good old days of romance seem to be a thing of the past. Long gone are the days when one could spend endless hours writing love letter and romantic poems for his or her beloved. The present generation wants all things done at superfast speeds, at the click of a button. Love and marriage too, is no exception. In such a scenario, online dating comes as a boon for many.  This is a perfect platform for people who are looking for love, but just can’t seem to find time to meet their beloved from their busy schedules. Unlike normal dating, online dating is not time bound. Despite having long and tiring day at work, you can easily come back home and chat online with your partner, way into the late-night hours. While feeling free to express whatever you wish online, you might even end up finding the love of your life this way. But is it really that simple? Does online dating actually helps you find your desired partner? Well the answer to this lies in the form of personal experiences. While some people have actually ended up finding their ideal life partners online, others have not been that lucky. Many a times, you wind up getting cheated or duped by your online partner once you meet them in real life. So, the question that arises is that is it actually possible to find the love of your life online? Well to answer this, there are a certain set of Do’s and Don’ts, that one must follow, while trying to find their ideal partner online:

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Do’s:

  • Be honest: Always be honest while creating your online dating profile. Never brag or over exaggerate your qualities in order to grab someone’s attention. The more honest you will, the more of a chance you have of finding a like minded person online.
  • Give the relationship time: Never try to hurry up and jump into a relationship. Take your time and try to know the person better before, meeting him or her in person. This will also end up giving your more clarity in your relationship.

Don’ts:

  • Don’t have expectations: Never have any expectations in the initial phase of your online relationship. Once you decide to meet in person, you might end up getting disappointed that way.
  • Don’t be judgemental: Never be judgemental about the person till the time you know them better or meet them in person. Meet the person with an open mind and form your opinion only after that.

With these do’s and don’ts in mind, we really hope you end up meeting your ideal partner online. All the best!

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Do’s and Don’ts for a girl while dating a Punjabi boy

Girls always like to hang out with boys rather than with other girls. There are strong reasons about this. Guys don’t have any shit gossiping to do, there is no jealousy and drama. They are nice enough to be good friends. They will hold you and protect whenever you need them. Especially if the guy is a ‘Punjabi Munda’ then the chances of perfect dating increases. Punjabi guys are so nice and sweet that Punjabi Dating with these guys is so much fun.

 

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They are so cool that even if you are dating them, they will not expect much from you. Punjabi Dating with such a cool guy is like a dream come true!

A Punjabi guy is simple as any other guy. You can do some certain things to cheer him up while you are on a date with him. Some of them are:

Cook food for him:  Yes you get it right! Punjabis are a big foodie. The way to a Punjabi guy’s heart and even his soul is through the stomach. Every Punjabi like a certain type of foods like Makki ki Roti with Sarso ka Sag, Kadi Chawl, Rajma Chawl, drinks like Lassi, Kesar Milk, Thandai and deserts like Kheer, Faluda, and Kulfi etc. Cook something for him and give him a surprise

Be happy: If a boy really loves you, there are some things which cheer him up more than anything in the world and the most important thing is your smiling and happy face. Just laugh and be happy when you are with him. It will give him immeasurable strength.

Sing any Punjabi song for him: These guys are very fond of Punjabi music. Just memorize some lines of any meaningful Punjabi song. Sing it and see his reaction. If you start understanding or liking the language then you both can listen together. This may help both of you to be full of enthusiasm.

There are also certain things that can frustrate him while dating. You should never do these things. Some of them include:

Don’t be fake: Punjabis do not like fake people. They really like honest girls. Be honest with him. Just be what you are. Being fake can dishearten him. You can share your feelings, your thoughts and your problems with them. They will understand and help you to solve them.

Never comment on his looks: Punjabi guys are really possessive about their looks. Don’t give any negative comment on his looks. Your negative comment will really hurt him.

Don’t mention your ex: No boy will like it if you keep mentioning your ex while you are with him. Do not compare him with your ex even in jokes. Never expect him to be like your ex.

Don’t talk about old issues: Do not bring those issues again between both of you that are closed. If you forgave him for some issue then don’t mention it in your talks while dating. It will really frustrate him.

These are some do’s and don’ts while dating you should give heed if your guy is a Punjabi guy.

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Do’s and don’ts for a boy while dating a Punjabi girl

Punjabi Dating with a beautiful Punjabi girl is like a dream come true for every boy. Punjabi girls are admired everywhere because of their beauty, their long black hairs, fair color, good height and their proper patola look. They look gorgeous in every attire.

 

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Here are some do’s and don’ts for you while dating a Punjabi girl. Let’s have a look on them:

Do’s

Girls always love surprises. Give her surprises. Arrange a candle light dinner, put on some music, make her feel special and give her lovely gifts.

Although she has a very strong personality, yet she is very emotional and sensitive. You should know how to handle her emotions. Always respect her feelings. Always admire her personality. Being a Punjaban, she always achieves what she wants.

A Punjabi girl is open-minded, frank and outspoken. She always expects from her guy that he will understand her feelings.Understand her and always make her feel important

Punjabis are big foodies. Search for the best eating places in the town.  Always take her out to eat different style of food.

They are enthusiastic and fun loving. They expect from their guys to be like that. So, always try to do something new. Be enthusiastic.

She likes people with good sense of humor. Be like that and make her laugh at any situation. Crack good jokes to amuse her.

Always respect her family. Though she is a fun loving girl but she will never listen to something wrong about her loved ones.

A Punjabi girl likes doing adventurous tasks. She loves bullets, car and jeep rides. Take her for long drives on your bullet to enjoy your date to the fullest.

Punjabis are party animals and so are the girls. Do late night parties and have fun. But remember, don’t try to cross your limits. A girl always likes the guy with whom she can feel safe. Hold her and protect her if she is not in her consciousness. She will really this behavior of yours!

She mixes up with everyone even she is meeting with someone for the first time. Always admire this quality of hers.

Dont’s

Never do any show off in front of her. Punjabi girls really don’t like this. This is the major thing which you have to keep in mind in Punjabi Dating.

Don’t be fake in front of her. Be the original you. It will help to make your bond strong.

Girls like the guys on whom they can trust. So be trustworthy for her.

Punjabi girls have their self-respect. Never make fun of her emotions in any way. Never do things which can hurt her self-respect.

Always be a good hearted man for her. Don’t do bad talks in front of her. Never use abusive language when you are with her.

Don’t compare her to your ex, even don’t talk about your ex in front of her. Never expect her to be like your ex. All people have their own individuality after all!

Never talk about forgiven things and old fights. It can spoil her mood as well your date.

Always pay heed to these do’s and don’ts while dating a Punjabi girl. Do efforts to make your date perfect. Happy dating!

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Do’s and don’ts for a girl while dating an Indian boy

Indian men are a little bit complex. You must have heard several platitudes about them and most of them are true. You can never understand them fully.

If you are dating and Indian man, your Hindi dating will have a whole different story. It can be tricky and dangerous at the same time.

 

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Dating an Indian man has some challenges and when you both are from a different cultural background than challenges can be more. The objective of Hindi Dating is to have an engaging conversation and to know your partner better.

In a relationship, there are some general things which are entitled as Dos and Don’ts. Those should be kept in mind while dating an Indian boy.

Do’s

Indian boys are often concerned about the dresses of girls. Dress accordingly to the local standards of the place. If you are going to Goa with him, you can wear shorts and tank tops but same is not applicable in small cities, as Goa is much more modern than other places. If you wear such things at these places, you will attract the wrong sort of attention that will be not acceptable by Indian boys.

Ask about his hobbies, interests, his taste for movies/books etc. This type of conversation will help you, people, to open up.  If you can make him enjoy talking, pat your back as you’d strike the best chord.

Don’t hesitate if he asks about your life, career plans, family etc. If you do, it will make him so uncomfortable in front of you. He will never ask about your life.

An Indian boy possesses protective nature for his girl. Feel safe with him and don’t worry.  He will protect you anyway. Show trust on him. It will make him feel good.

As Indian culture is full of traditions, Indian boys also have traditionally beliefs. Do something of Indian culture like sometimes wear traditional dresses etc. It will impress him.

Don’ts

Don’t get irritated if his mother starts calling him around 10:00 pm. Most Indian young boys live with their parents. So it is expected that his mother will worry about him and call him to make sure that he is okay.

Don’t expect to be introduced to his family very soon. Indian parents have typical thoughts about love marriage. They don’t accept easily if their son has any girlfriend of another culture.

Don’t be shocked if people stare at both of you. Interracial couples are uncommon in India.

Don’t ask him about his past relationships too much. It can turn his mood off. Don’t start any topic of your past boyfriends while you are dating.  Don’t ask too many questions to him. He will not like a one-way conversation. Have a relaxed, natural conversation. It will make your date wonderful. Don’t ask too much about his professional life.

Everyone doesn’t have the same beliefs and attitudes. Attitude and perspective towards any subject vary according to culture. It’s all about cultural differences. Take time and give time. Have patience! Don’t do anything in hurry. Your actions can be misconceived.

Pay heed to these dos and don’ts while dating an Indian boy. It will surely help you to make your dates perfect.

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Do’s and Don’ts for a boy while dating an Indian girl

There is actually no rulebook to define the do’s and don’ts of dating an Indian girl but there are few things that you should keep in your mind while Hindi Dating. Pay heed to them to make your date the perfect one. There are some doings that will impress her while some others can destroy your date which you should never do. Figure out these deeds by reading this article:

 

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The first thing to do is making her feel comfortable and special. Do special things to make her happy. Show your care towards her. Indian girls really like the guys who are possessive about them. Accept her for what she is. Do not expect her to be fake and put on makeup every time just because she is with. You should also show her your real personality. Don’t be fake just to impress her. In Hindi Dating, there is nothing more relaxing for a man than looking into her eyes and be the real personality, and for a woman, there is nothing more adorable than his guy being himself.

The venue is one of the most important aspects of any date. And when it comes to Indian girls, they really like decorated places and surprises. Decorate the place with flowers and balloons Arrange candle light dinner and give her lovely surprise. Believe me, she will really be happy!
Talk about your past relationships if you had any. Opening up about the past makes women comfortable to speak about theirs too.  There is nothing wrong in this. After all that was passed! But remember don’t overdo this. Enjoy your present relationship instead.

Be the guy who is confident enough about his looks. Don’t dress like a party clown. Just be casual. It’s a date, not a party!

An Indian girl faces some problems in her house as some Indian families are conservative for girls till date. If this is the same problem with her also, then try to understand her problems. Make her reach home before it gets dark. Don’t force her to hang out at night.

It’s fine to be little nervous, but it’s really not okay to do weird things because of nervousness. You need not try very hard to impress her. Be normal like you always do. Try to be a gentleman. Be conversational and casual. Your date should not seem like a job interview.

Do not ask her what dishes she can make while you are dating her. Don’t ask recipe of any dish on your date for heaven’s sake! They are not meant to do all these chores only. Instead, ask her about her career aspirations and dreams.

Do not get too personal. Don’t ever ask her if she is a virgin. It really not matters even if you are still. Trust me! Virginity is over- rated.

Always respect her individuality. She is a person with her own opinions, thoughts, beliefs, dreams and aspirations. Don’t underestimate her. She is the girl of the modern era and can do anything that you can do! Sometimes it can be better as well.

If she is not comfortable around a lot of people, avoid crowded places. Try not to drink in front of her if she is a typical Indian girl. Avoid bars, nothing worse can happen than messing up your date and letting her carry you home.

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Dating tips for dating in a social media generation

The world has become a small platform. While sitting in the privacy of your room, with your lappy in your lap and a mug of coffee in your hand, you now have the power to roam around the world in a matter of minutes, rather seconds! This is the power of the internet. What started as a form of convenience has now taken over our lives. From making a simple class project to making new friends, all aspects of our lives are dependent on it. Even our relationships have been affected by it in present times. With the coming up of social networking sites like Facebook, Tinder, twitter etc., today’s busy generation finds it convenient to form relations with unknown people, in the comfort of their home. It has, to an extent, taken the form of addiction and has definitely become a big thing in the USA dating arena. From being in a relationship to getting engaged and married, everything has to be announced on social networking sites. Anything otherwise is taken as bad social etiquettes! So with the social media taking over our dating scene, there are certain things we must keep in mind while going out with someone we met over the net:

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  • Research about the person thoroughly: The first and most important thing to do is to research about a person thoroughly before meeting him or her in person. It is very easy to create fake social media ID’s and fool people. Only when you are very sure about the person at the other end, fix up the date.
  • Be alert on the first date: When you meet an online friend for the first time for a date, be very alert. If possible, then tag along with a friend. Make sure to tell people close to you about whom you are meeting and where are you meeting him or her. It’s better to be safe than sorry.
  • Don’t become an online stalker: Once you have met the person are sure about him or her, then sit back and relax. There is just no need to keep a track of his timeline all the time. Don’t stalk him online at any cost!
  • Don’t make your timeline a bulletin board: OK, with god’s grace, you have been lucky in love and have found an apt life partner online. But this certainly does not mean that you need to announce it to the whole world via your Facebook page! This way, not only are you letting the whole world have a sneak peek into your private life, but also making a joke out of yourself.
  • Never breakup online: There may be chances that your relationship doesn’t work out. In such a case, make sure to break up in person, in a dignified way. Don’t make it a public announcement by putting it up as a status on social media. This will not only ruin the reputation of the other half but yours as well.

With changing times, it is better to accept and embrace the change. However, it is important to keep certain things in check, it’s better to be safe than sorry!

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Top dating advice to women from men

Dating is one of the most fun aspects of a relationship. It is that phase of your life when you are young and free from all the hardships and challenges that life might put you across in future. It is a time when you can freely meet new people, go out with them and get to know them more. Who knows, one of these people might just turn out to be your soul mate with whom you are destined to spend the rest of your lives! But hey, till then, enjoy yourself to the fullest! When we talk in particular about the USA dating scene, both the men and women stand on an equal pedestal, with both having the right to choose the guy or girl they want to date. However, since time immortal, there are certain stereotypes that get tagged along with dating, with different rules for men and women. While it is believed that it is the man’s role to be the protector, it is the woman who should be pampered. But have we ever heard the man’s side of the story? Well, it is high time that we do. We went around and made an ultimate collection of tips and pieces of advice that Men have for their women counterparts when they take her out on a date:

  • Be honest: Men really like honest women. So when out on a date, please be yourself. For example, you don’t need to wear a dress that you are uncomfortable instead of your comfy pair of jeans, just to make an impression.  Never try to be something that you are not when out on a date.
  • Be open about your choices: Kindly tell your partner openly about your choice of restaurant, movies, food, likes, dislikes etc. It helps men be better prepared for dates.
  • Be a good listener: well, we fully know that women like to talk, but we men might have something to say as well. So kindly listen to what we have to say as well. At times, being a good listener can lead to better things in future.
  • Don’t read between lines: Men are simple people, who generally don’t mince their words. They call a spade, a spade. So don’t bother to read between lines and try to find double meanings behind what your date says. Respect his opinion.
  • Don’t over-research: this applies especially when you are going out for the first time. Please don’t over research about your date like his food likings, drink preferences etc. While it may seem flattering at first, but might scare him later. You might even be labeled a stalker!
  • Offer to pay: Women loved being called empowered, but when it comes to paying the bill, they forget all about financial independence and allow the men to pay. This is grossly wrong. We are not telling you to fight over the cheques, but at least offer to pay. If not fully, then at least offer to share the date expenses.

So there you have it ladies! Advice direct from the horse’s mouth! Follow these tips and you’ll be the most popular girl in town! Enjoy!

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Things to keep in mind while dating a girl elder to you

Dating an older woman is a rage these days. For many women above 35, they’ve never felt more coveted by men in their late twenties or early 30s. There are many reasons why men seek to date a girl elder to them. A naïve man will fall for the cougar concept, wink-wink idea and the old elbow-jabbing though that they are more likely to pay for everything. Well, that’s not true as these women have brains and have chosen this space for a reason too. A smart man doesn’t enter into a relationship due to such obscure reasons.

India Dating has come of age and men are seeking to date elder women. Many might have dated women of their age or below, many might had sour relations or trust issues before, but this is a completely new space with bright, new prospects. It’s exciting because the level of camaraderie won’t start as the way it used to. It won’t be cheeky or tacky, but once the dice rolls, I bet there’ll be no looking as the bond can surpass all your previous ones and exceed every expectation. So here are a few things that you need to keep in mind as you set forth to date an elder woman.

 

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  • Remember she’s got her own life: So, don’t try to dupe her by fantasy words, or bluff, or try to impose your notions on her. If you gel well, these things can come naturally and it’s a natural amalgam. She has her career, her own friends, money, and by all means her apartment and car. You mustn’t do anything to show that you’re in a hurry to rob her that way, or you have come for her resources. A woman always likes attention, sincerity, and effort from her man. Make sure you don’t act in haste even if you have that slight avarice running down your brain cells.
  • Just another date: Try to make her comfortable. Don’t conceive an opinion that if she is well-off or affluent, she will take the initiative. Nothing changes really in the world of dating. As the man, you need to pull back the chair and ask her to sit down politely. Put the drinks in her glass and start talking smartly. If you show apprehension or fear, it is not good. There are women who try to make you comfortable, but you can sure take care of that in advance.
  • She can hold herself and perform: On many cases, women have bitter fallouts or past voids that have scarred them. If you know about them, no need to sympathize as she doesn’t like that fact. Rather, help her you to think that’s all past and the times were bad. Right now, you are the moment. Don’t bring back past glimpses or try to dig it up, or try to unravel things which she is not comfortable at. At least, spare your date for all these things. You need to know that she is matured enough and achieved to shun all those problems on her own. She doesn’t require a troubleshooter. Volunteering for that job can backfire, howsoever good the intention might be.

By all means, she is probably wiser than you and more matured. Don’t tell her things that she already knows or try to take her for a trip. That will spell disaster. In India Dating, make sure you don’t hurry up on anything. Just talk, dine, drink and nurture your camaraderie.

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How to manage finances while dating a girl

Dating a girl has not been that easy for the regular guy. Let’s keep it simple. Those who are affluent and filthy rich will find the dating thing a great time passes or pastime even. Honestly, these guys don’t have to work for their resources or think of the means to achieve. They are either born with that money or don’t have to work for that. More often than not, the focus on finances is not there. People who can get them easily will not batter an eyelid to continue with their dating spree, with many girls.

But, for guys who are not born with such resources or who don’t have that affluent background, galvanizing your finances is a very important thing. In your approach to India Dating, you need to see that your job and business is sound or good enough to support your expenses. Then only, you won’t feel financially shattered in the middle of a date or in some work endeavor.

 

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  • Plan your expenses: This is the very first directive. You need to treat the date as another platform of expense. Being honest with you is very important here. You need to know your own condition and capacity of spending. If you a monthly income that supports hangouts in post restaurants and clubs, then all fine. But, if the income is shaky or there are intermittent earnings in bulk, you need to be a little cautious. Planning your expenses in accordance with your income is always the right thing. It applies more here.
  • Fix your fixtures: After fixing the first directive, your aim should be to select the place of date or the places to go. There are certain clubs, lounges, and discotheques that compel you to dish you enormous amounts of money. When you have affirmed your financial condition and ground reality, you’ll know which places to go. This confidence will only come when you have assessed your life in proper terms. There’s no need to hurry or copy others. It’s your life and it’s you who is dating.
  • Know the girl: Make sure she isn’t a leech. There are some girls out there whose sole purpose is to drain you financially. Let’s admit it; you have many such cases happening around you. When you are planning your finances, this is one thing you need to be careful about. You need to talk to the girl before and know about her. A little knowledge about the likes and preferences and the to-do list is most important here.
  • Don’t’ borrow but save: More often than not, there are guys who end up borrowing from their friends to impress their lady love or date. Sometimes, they even steal. This is horrendous and must be avoided at any cost. This is not a litmus test for you and you don’t need to go overboard for your date.

The best thing is to save certain amounts each month and set a target. That target is the amount you’ll spend or use in your dating. You can date more than one girl but you won’t exceed the monetary number. This dedication is important.

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