Making a Muslim Wedding elegant on a low budget

If you want a simple and traditional Muslim Matrimony, but are caught up in inhibitions like “what will my family and friends think”, “need to have that”, you will be soaked in an emotional and heavy roller coaster. There’s side to you that wants things to be inexpensive and simple. And on the other, you and your heart keeps tugging to making it fancy and swanky. Now, come to reality. You can always have things within reason and limits, but not everything. You need to make every decision with a simple question to your family and spouse, “it is necessary or just nice?” There’s no need to impress because weddings are not a platform to show off.

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You can offload enormous stress by cutting down the costs of many things that may have appeared important to you till now.

  • Cut your guest list: That’s just so elementary, isn’t it? Cut the numbers, cut it again and again because it’s easy for your attendee list to fluctuate and bloat. You need to remember that your wedding cost is proportional to the number and size of your guests. So, cut any extras, the couple, and the kids when you need only the one. There’s no point in scratching your hair over the nice-to-have things. It’s futile to think about people who don’t really count or won’t care either.
  • Cut down the venue costs: Avoid the swanky hotel or the fancy banquet/reception hall in favor of warm outdoors or a nice home space. In percentage, the reception caters to most people, which make the biggest hole in your wedding budget. You can slash it by organizing your reception or walima in spacious home of a friend or relative. You can also conduct it in the outdoors like park, garden or another venue.
  • The catering part: You can cut down the catering expenses by doing a potluck here. You have family members or friends with great cooking talent in the kitchen. Assign them the task of making some dishes and they will gladly do it. As you provide the ingredients for the recipes, the pals or relatives will be honored to pitch in. You can imbibe the one dish thumb rule. It means one appetizer followed by a main course meal and one dessert. For those using caterers, you will find that buffet is way cheaper than the conventional and formal sit on chair meal system.
  • Economize on flowers: Another element that involves a large expense in your Muslim Matrimony is that floral décor and arrangement. Curb the florist costs and get a simple bouquet for your bride. You can raid your friends or family gardens or lawns and get roses and other flowers. Cut and trim the flowers from their thorns, and put them in proper vases. You can also go to dollar stores and other dedicated outlets for candles, vases, lanterns and other accessories.
  • Online invitations: There’s no need to personally visit your guests and invite them. You have e-cards/e-vites. Use hand design cards and copy them.

You can also use digital postcards from popular sites.

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Muslim Wedding Rituals and Ceremonies you should know

Marriage in Islam differs as per the culture, geographical location and beliefs of the family. Right from the United States, to Arabian countries to Asia, Muslim matrimonial has a lot of different rituals and traditions. Marriage is known as Nikah in Islam and is considered to be a religious obligation which is a contract between the couple and their god Allah.

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Practices during the Wedding

Muslim weddings are not conducted on a specific date as per a Muhurut. The families usually pick a date as per their convenience. Earlier, the wedding would take place at the residence of the bride or groom but in modern times, many Muslims have started booking banquets or halls for the ceremony. The primary requirement in a Muslim wedding is the signing of a marriage contract. In a Sunni Muslim wedding, it is mandatory to have two consenting adult males as witnesses to the ceremony. However, in Shia weddings, this is not a pre-requisite. Compared to Shia weddings, Sunni weddings are much shorter and simpler. Usually, Muslim weddings are not conducted in a Mosque. The wedding can be officiated by anyone from the religion who understands the Islamic tradition. Many Muslims opt for a qazi or Madhun to oversee their marriage rituals.

The Meher

The marriage contract in a Muslim wedding includes a Meher – which is a monetary amount that the groom gives to his bride. There are two sections of a Meher, one includes a prompt due amount that must be given before the marriage is consummated and the other is a deferred amount that must be given to the bride throughout her life. Many modern couples use the engagement ring as the prompt. The deferred amount can be a gift, education, land or money which is the bride’s security and freedom within the marriage.

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Nikah

During the Nikah ceremony, the marriage contract is signed and  the groom must state the terms of the Meher to the bride and the  families. Both the bride and groom must say Qaboolhai three times  as an acceptance of the marriage to each other. Once the contract is  signed, the marriage is legal as per the religious and civil law.  According to Islamic customs, the couple can exchange a sweet fruit  like a date after the ceremony.

 

Vows and blessings for the couple

Many times, the person who is officiating the ceremony adds another ritual to the wedding which includes reciting the Fatihah, which is the first chapter of the Quran along with Durud (blessings). Traditionally, Muslim couples don’t exchange vows but listen to the officiant about their responsibilities in the Muslim matrimonial towards each other and towards Allah. However, some couples do exchange vows that are mentioned as per the Islamic culture.

Muslims are strong believers of their faith and tradition and therefore, you will notice that a Muslim wedding is full of classic rituals and traditions that have been carried on for generations. Though there might be slight differences based on sect, culture and location of the bride and groom, overall, all Muslim weddings are highly influenced by Islamic religion and follow strict customs in their ceremonies.