Planning a Fun Filled Sangeet Ceremony For a Tamil Wedding

One of the most popular pre-wedding functions, the Sangeet ceremony is an opulent celebration of the meeting and mixing of two families in the much awaited union of their beloved children. Although more visible and commercialized in north and central Indian weddings, the sangeet events are a class of their own in Tamil Matrimony. It offers immense respite from the hassles and hectic wedding preparations. All the women of the family come together well in advance and carry spoons and dholaks (percussive instruments), surround the beaming bride and belt out traditional and popular wedding songs.

The subjects of the thumping songs vary from daily life of girls to teasing the coy bride. Some songs also speak of the parents’ pain while sending their beloved daughter to her new house.

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  • Creating new ideas: The sky is the limit while planning a sangeet event. You have no set rules and order in this regard. Here’s a scope of pouring out all the bridal dreams you’ve cultivated thus far. You have the leverage to go overboard if you have a proper, permissive budget. The dress you choose for your sangeet is definitely one of the best in the bridal trousseau. It comes second only to the opulent wedding ensemble. However, unlike the wedding dress, you are free to experiment with several designs and styles. The bride can choose to adorn an ensemble instead of a sari or lehenga. Even if she wears a lehenga or a dress as opulent as that, she can go with any design, cut or color.
  • The dress variation: There are leading designers designing some modern and funky lehengas that enable you to turn up the looks and glam quotient. It will still allow you adequate comfort and you can dance sans worrying. There’s the groom and his gentlemen brigade turning out in kurta pajamas or the latest indo-western dresses like kurtas with dhoti pants. You can also wear a Nehru jacket or waistcoat over it.
  • Induce games: Apart from the loud songs and dancing, your sangeet ceremony in Tamil Matrimony might include interactive games like riddles and karaoke. You can arrange award-like functions where they laud you for your performances. There’s enough room to get creative with the snacks and cocktails. You can hire a professional bartender to entertain invitees with his special antics. You can induce further competition between respective groups of the bride and groom. These are Guess Who and tug of war. You can also be very innovative with the modern sangeet event’s theme. It can be your Tamil film night, magic theme or princess dream. Some folks also go for disco night or casino night.
  • Getting your basics right: Event management firms can look after the entire event. It starts from selecting the perfect setting to selecting the best choreographer. They can also arrange celebs for participating in performances.

The professionals manage each detail from song to food selection, from photography to lighting. All you have to do is show up for the wedding and make yourselves the star of the show.

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How is Kundali Milan Similar To The Western Concept Of Love Chemistry

As a law of nature, east and west have always been poles apart from each other. This reflects not only in their demographic and geographic equation, but also through the wide difference they in terms of the way of living of the people at both ends. The cultural, traditional, spiritual, mental, economic as well as physical differences between both these populations is too wide a gap to cover. However, when it comes to emotions and feelings like love, there are chances that similarities between both are somewhere possible.

In eastern countries like India, where arranged marriage and practices like Kundali Matching are still widely practice, no such norm in seen in countries Like Britain, or USA, which are situated in the west. However, such countries too have certain measures to find suitability between two people, and whether or not they will get along well after marriage. One of the main concept behind predicting the same comes in the form of “Love chemistry.”

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What is “Love Chemistry?”:

In the western countries, concept like horoscope matching do not exist. However, the psychologists there firmly believe that there are certain chemical processes that go on in the human body, which are responsible for attraction or hate between two different individuals. While you may come across strangers whom towards whom you experience an instant interaction, then again there are people whom you may dislike for no apparent reason. This form of connect that you feel in the first go is termed as “Love chemistry.” While the success rate of the same cannot be predicted in terms of numbers and statistics, its existence, however , cannot be denied.

Similarities between Kundali Milan and love chemistry:

While the very concept of Kundali Milan and Love Chemistry is poles apart from each other, there are certain similarities between the two which cannot be denied. Some of them are as follows:

  • Both are match making concepts: the main reason that people follow Kundali Milan and love chemistry is to find a perfect match for themselves. While kundali does that on the basis of star and planetary positioning, Love chemistry depends on the psychological and chemical attraction between the two.
  • Both are based on a particular science: While Kundali matching is largely dependent on the science of astrology for predicting the human equation between the two individuals, love chemistry is mainly based of the psychological and emotional connect between the two.
  • Both are instrumental in predicting the emotional equation between two individuals: both Kundali Milan and love chemistry help predict the emotional connect and equation that a couple are likely to share after getting married. While Kundali matching is more like a shot in the dark in this aspect, love chemistry is more likely to present some clear results.

With all said, this fact cannot be denied that the main reason behind following love chemistry and Kundali Milan is to mainly predict the love and compatibility between the couple. As they say in the matter of love, always follow your heart.

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Is Mangal Dosha Still Important?: A Critical Analysis

We are living in the age of technology. The rapid expansion in the same has in a way, taken control of our lives, every hour, minute and second of our life in governed by professional or personal work, of which we require outputs. However, when it comes to life changing decisions like marriage, we Indians still opt for the age old traditional ways, following the practices that have existed since time immortal. One such practice, which has been an integral part of Indian marriages is that of Kundali matching. As per this tradition, the horoscopes of the prospective couple are to be matched before the alliance between the girl and boy is finalized. However, horoscope matching in turn can divide the people further due to the practices and beliefs that come associated with it. One such practice which has split wide the horoscope believers is that of “Mangal Dosha.” A person is said to have a Mangal Dosha, if his or her horoscope is governed by the planet Mars (Mangal). While such a person may be domineering, attractive, good looking and strong willed, he or she may get a little unlucky when it comes to marriage. It is believed that if a person with a strong Mangal gets married to a non-manglik, it can lead to marital discords, misunderstanding or even ill health or death of a non-manglik partner. While some people strongly believe in mangal and its consequences, others rule it out as a total hoax. Let us try and understand whether or not mangal is of any importance in present times, by analyzing the two schools of thoughts regarding the same:

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“Mangal dosha” believers:

Even in present day and age, there are many who firmly believe that stars and planets have a strong impact on the events that take place in our lives. As per them, Mangal is the strongest planet amongst all. It is fierce in nature and hence, tends to absolve all weaker planets which come near it. Hence, they believe that if a Manglik marries a non manglik, it can lead to an unhappy marriage, marital discord, misunderstand and doubt between the couple. Moreover, if the Mangal Dosha is supremely strong in the horoscope, it can even lead to the subsequent death of the non-manglik partner.

“Mangal Dosha” non-believers:

However, in present times, there is a huge sect of people who refute the mangal dosha theory from the core. As per them, no planet is stronger than another. Hence being a manglik or non manglik really does not matter much. Every person has a fortune of their own, which cannot be affected by anyone else, even their life partner. So giving weightage to Manglik Dosha leads only to fear and superstition, and nothing else.

Looking at both the perspectives, one can conclude that believing or not in Manglik Dosha is a matter of personal inclination in present times. Let’s hope that all goes well for everyone. May the stars be with you!

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Living a Blissful Marital Life Despite a Mismatched Kundali – My Story

Indian Hindu families believe strongly in astrology. Most Hindu families in fact always get Kundalis matched for marriage. They believe that if the Kundlis do not match the marriage is doomed and hence, most often do not go ahead with the alliance. Such strong is the belief that they are ready to call off a marriage if there is a fault with the kundlis. However, with changing times, there are many modern families and couples who are defying this staunch belief and faith in kundli matching and have gone ahead with marriage in spite of ill matched kundlis. My marriage is one such story.

My husband and I were madly in love with each other and were dating for 8 years. Our love story, however, was hidden from the world as we were from different communities. However, one day the world had to know as we wanted to get married. The initial hurdle was telling the parents and as expected we faced opposition from all quarters. Over many fights, arguments and teary talks, we waded this storm and convinced are parents to meet each other. The meeting was awkward at the beginning but since both the families were well cultured and educated, the air of anxiety did not loom for long. After having liked each other and the families, they decided to start preparations for the wedding but my husband’s grandmother put a spoke in the wheel as she asked for the Kundlis to be matched and only then go ahead with the marriage.

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Inspite of much opposition from both my husband and me, it was decided to get the Kundlis matched by a family astrologer. Much to our dismay and fear, the Kundlis had a mismatch, only 10 gunas or qualities matched, which was much lower than the requisite 18 gunas.There was major upheaval in the family with the elders creating another hurdle. The marriage was called off with immediate effect, leaving us despondent. We still met and tried to reconcile to the fact that this marriage was not destined to be but somehow I could not fathom that a Kundli could spoil a 8 year long relationship. I was not ready to accept that the Kundlis knew more about us than we both did. So I decided to pursue the relationship and convinced my husband to get married in spite of opposition.

We got married a year later and were disowned by both the families. Now we were alone leading our lives. We had a lot of initial hiccups, which most marriage but were happy to be with each other.

Today, we have been married for 30 years, have two beautiful children and 4 grandchildren. We have a family of our own and don’t have any regrets for taking that tough decision so many years ago of getting married.

Always remember love surpasses all. If you and your spouse truly love each other and are ready to face and fight all kinds of odds, any amount of opposition or ill matched Kundlis can be turned around. 

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Predicting Healthy Physical and Emotional Bonding by Way of Kundali Matching

For centuries Hindus have relied on Vedic astrology to make important life decisions, which includes selecting a life partner. It has and still does help in making an informed decision about the future. Kundli Matching is one of the basics when it comes to marriage proposals in India. Most Hindu families still believe in the power of Kundlis or horoscope and the implications a mismatched Kundli can have on the lives of the two people concerned.

It is believed that Kundli matching is a sure shot way of checking the compatibility two people proposing to get married. It is done by matching the gunas of the two individuals based on their horoscope and if 18 or more gunas match, the Kundlis are meant to be compatible and the marriage alliance is given a go ahead. A good vedic astrologer is needed to make a Kundli and also to interpret it because all the results are based on his readings.

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Kundli matching is used to know the physical, mental and emotional compatibility of two individuals. It also predicts the financial stability of the couple after marriage. There are about 8 gunas or quality tests that an astrologer undertakes to know the overall compatibility of two people.

The fourth test is the Yoni guna test that checks the physical and sexual compatibility between a couple. They are represented by animals and there are 14 types with 2 nakshatra belonging to each. The behavior of each animal towards the other was decided by astrologers in the past and they formed 5 behavioral categories. Each behavirol category is given points and based on it the compatibility of the two individuals is decided.

Another test check the emotional compatibility of two individuals. It is called the Graha Maitri, used to check the love between the couple and also the emotional connect. You can calculate it by comparing the sign lords of the moon in both the bride and groom’s chart. Points are given to the lords based on their friendliness towards each other. For instance, if the two lords are the same or friends, 5 points are given to them while if both are enemies then they do not get any point.

There are many other similar tests to check the health, family progeny, financial strength and other parameters between the couple. Only if all the tests show positive results, is the marriage considered else many families call off the wedding.

Marriages in India, are not between two individuals but between families and it is important that it is with the consent of all the family members. A major influencing factor in this regard is Kundli matching. If the Kundlis are positive, the first stage of marriage of crossed.

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Importance of Kundali Matching in Arranged Marriages

India is that country where a matrimonial affair is considered to be the biggest celebration and an epoch-making moment of your life. All the highs of lows of your life or the goods and bad things that you might have done all throughout your life, seem to snowball to this one auspicious day, where both person unites under the vow of marriage. Since time immemorial, there have many rituals and customs that have been observed to ensure that the couple spends a blissful married life. One such practice and ritual that’s an integral part of the Hindu society of India is kundali matching.

It refers to the matching of horoscopes of those two persons involved as per their stars’ positioning, which lead to the prediction of their future. Since the very beginning, people have attached immense importance to matching both the kundalis when it comes to marriages. This includes both resident and non-resident Indians.

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  • The traditional facet: Indian culture’s most special aspect that makes it stand apart from the rest of the world is that it remains deeply connected to its strong roots. The people believe in following different traditions, which have been imbibed in all since birth. One such tradition that many choose to follow and do really believe in is kundali matching.
  • Gives a sense of security: Regardless of whether you’re following it as tradition, family obligation or even as a fad or superstition, an undeniable thing about matching horoscopes is that sense of security it brings. The belief and certainty is of course for the ones who believe in it. Faith is one such thing, which when given a push takes to heights. If you match the kundalis of the prospective bride and groom before their arranged marriage, the two persons and their families feel secure and satisfied about the fact that can now spend their conjugal life happily and peacefully.
  • Predicts mental and physical compatibility: Going by the logic of it, this is the biggest benefit of kundali matching is case of arranged marriages. Let’s admit, the two persons have never bet before, or seldom met each other. They don’t know each other well, let alone any physical contact of that sort. So, a horoscope matching, if done properly with correct calculations, entails the ability to tell the mental and physical compatibility between the two. When two people show proper scores for these parameters, it’s considered to be an ideal match.
  • Helps to avoid genetic malaises offspring: You can find different aspects of horoscopes that thrive on the ancestral part and family to whom the person belongs. Invariably, it’s based on the blood or genes he or she might carry. It refers to the data and study of genealogy, which gives you a vivid picture of the married life. That helps you to prevent far off relatives or those from the same gotra or clan from getting married.

Precisely, it helps prevent genetic and chromosomal disorders and diseases that might take place in the children of those couples. You can often witness this in the case of kids of related people.

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Understanding Nadi Doshas and Its Role in Kundali Matching

The often used adage of marriages are made in heaven is actually a time-tested line in Indian society. Indians have a propensity to take their ancient scriptures and pantheon, which have been down to them since ages every seriously. One such ancient, important and still relevant custom is kundali matching. It’s still prevalent in today’s society and is more of science with Gunas and Kundali. It’s part of the long mathematics that we call astrology. As per the birth time and place, it impacts gravitational forces of stars and planets on the forms of two people who’re matching their kundalis.

To understand Nadi dosh and its significance in horoscope matching, you need to see it through a case today. That’d make things clearer.

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  • Seeing the ground: If the girl belongs to rakhshaash gaan and the guy comes from naar gaan, it becomes a sharp contrast. Its 0/7 suppose of a nadi dosh here. The entire horoscope entailing all birth specific is vital. An evaluation of the Askkoot guna pertaining to milan, if it falls below 19, the girl will have nadi dosha or gana dosha, or both. Astrologically, the matching is weak.
  • The fundamentals: It refers to problems for kids and conceiving them. You cannot ignore this dosha in the context of kundali matching as it refers to the pulse energy and nerves of the girl. It entails incompatibility, which refers to severe hereditary problems or worse issues for the progenies.
  • The first solution: If you want to have any solutions or corrections for a situation where you don’t have any hand whatsoever, you need to seek the answers right at the start. Some people think that Naadi dosh becomes irrelevant or depleted if the nakhstaraas remain unfamiliar with each another. However, it won’t be the resultant impact because a Naadi dosha doesn’t become null and void in a kundali. You need to check if you fall within the chakra or vedha of Naadi Pad or not. It’d carve out a complete a naadi disha. There are some who are not in this fold, but their children might be born with naadi doshas.
  • Obstacles in marriage and the solutions: Performing purifying, cleansing, pujas or correcting rituals for the yoni, gana dosh or naadi dosh is the main directive in this context. Astrologers believe that with a low milan or union score in the list of Gunaas, a marriage will be difficult or in troubled waters. You have three different and distinct doshas, each coming with their bucket of intricacies and implications. The Yoni refers to sexual potency, scope, energy, compatibility and incompatibility. You can actually ignore it because it’s not a major detraction. You can always work on it.
  • To be precise: Kundali matching is considered to be good and vital as it helps in matching the attributes and wavelength of two individuals. For instance, if one is aggressive and the other is cool, then the gunas will show whether both can complement one another or not.

It especially helps when there are more than one proposals coming your way.

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Adding a Royal Touch to Your Kerala Wedding

The most conspicuous aspect of Kerala Matrimonial is that the weddings are simple and short. They are sweet and contain less of rituals and traditions. Held in the morning, they get over as soon as they start! That’s how people describe the sweet rituals of Kerala marriages in comparison with other lavish and elaborate wedding traditions of the country’s different regions and cultures. The people are rooted to the culture and believe in minimalistic presentations in these weddings. These factors make Kerala weddings not that lavish and magnificent in show as the North Indian ones.

However, the younger folks are becoming more and more cosmopolitan and there are many ways you can make your simple and elegant wedding appear regal and majestic.

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  • The introductory note: Marriage ceremonies can exhaust you out and make you go all over the pace. The trick is, however, to keep calm and have a steady checklist of elements that make the ceremony click. In this regard, your wedding décor may necessitate some serious overhaul if all the concerned components aren’t there.
  • Stick to the theme: The basic and perhaps the safest way to make your Kerala Matrimonial look royal is to stick to a theme. If you’re an epitome of perfection, you’ll know the purport of sticking to a theme. Do keep to a code of color. The safest way is to choose a certain theme based on a particular color. Most Kerala weddings choose white color.
  • The furniture and sitting style in compliance with the theme: If you’re going for s spotless white wedding, you can have a British tent with clean, white chairs inside it as the ultimate clincher. It normally wonderful as an outdoor setup in a lovely lawn. You can also take crystal theme ideas for your indoor white ceremonies. It can have jars and vases on the tables, with each of them entailing a rustic touch to the set.
  • Knitting the backdrop with the color code and theme: The backdrop is a pivotal aspect of the wedding décor as that’s the area where the main highlight of event goes. If you move the bride and groom away, there’s no wedding at all. You need to give that importance to the backdrop while picking it. Hence, you need to choose a backdrop in accordance with the style you’re looking to suit the theme.
  • Bolstering the entrance: Keeping the entrance at its regal best is the best thing to make your wedding look royal. First impression is the last impression. So, decorate your entrance to its brim to ensure that every guest is impressed as soon as they walk in. Since these are morning weddings, choose light colors like beige, pink, fuchsia, teal blue and similar shades.
  • Bedeck the dining space to suit your theme: It may seem to be an unnecessary step to some, but you need to remember that your invitees are going to spend a lot of time here. It’s always better to decorate the dining area, making them feel comfortable and good about it.

Aesthetics do matter a lot in weddings, you see.

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Saree Options For a Kerala Bride

Kerala marriage ceremonies are of the most beautiful, austere and elegant of all. If you are a part of Kerala matrimony, you will seldom see any sort of larger than life experience or show-off in these events. Similarly, the bridal attire of the person of the day is more beautiful and elegant and flashy and gorgeous. Most of the Malayali brides wear traditional saris on their marriage day. The people are extremely particular about their wedding traditions and rituals, and follow them religiously. Whether it’s a Kerala Hindu wedding, Christian wedding or a Muslim wedding, everyone follows the rituals and perform everything gracefully.

For those who’re going to be a Mayalali bride soon and are looking for their bridal ensemble, these are some traditional wedding drapes that you cannot miss exploring.

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  • The traditional Malayali bridal look with Kasavu sari: The Kasavu sari, with its iconic and beautiful golden zari work contrasted with spotless cloth has emerged to be the clinching symbol of the Kerala bride. It’s one of the most popular saris worn by Malayali brides. The south Indian ensemble is a true masterpiece, happening to be the one of the favorite wedding saris. It’s a perfect choice to render simple and elegant looks. You need to mix the right type of jewelry with such a beautiful sari. It looks really nice and full on all complexions. Hence, you don’t need to worry about looks or skin tone.
  • Build a contemporary look with the modern and trendy zari Kasavu sari: For those who aren’t really obsessed with the simple and traditional Kasavu sari and seek to experiment with the traditional fold, then this one’s the perfect pick for you. It has stunning golden motifs adorning the border, which make the masterpiece even more attractive. The options and designs are aplenty in the market and you can choose this ensemble for your wedding day. You can also get it customized by getting some embroidery done on it. You can wear it on your reception too.
  • Render a royal touch with Kanchipuram sari: It’s one of the most preferred and most expensive South-Indian saris that you’ll find in Kerala matrimony. The locals consider it as the Banarasi of that region. Kanchipuram is acclaimed for its craftsmanship, beauty and quality. It’s one of the most coveted for Malayalam Hindu brides. You can easily find it in the market in almost all shades and colors. If budget is not a constraint for you, you can go for this one.
  • Rendering a graceful look with a Brocade sari: If you want something different and want to shun the stereotype fold, the brocade is the perfect choice for you. With this beautiful yet simple sari, you cannot go wrong. They really look elegant and stunning, and are even easy to carry and are very comfortable. The catchy designs and work on the drapes make them extremely adorable. They are available in plenty of shades and colors.
  • Get gorgeous with the Banarasi sari: Now, this had to come.

It might be the unconventional for Kerala brides, but you can always blend this famous North-Indian sari with your traditional jewelry to achieve an idiosyncratic look.

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Dressing Ideas For a Bridesmaid For a Kerala Wedding

While the bride remains the quintessential favorite and show-stopper in any wedding, the bridesmaid too deserves and requires a separate space. Honestly, they do much to bolster the appeal of the bride. They accompany her to the center stage, stay by her side and do many errands in the event. In short, all that is given to the bride are assimilated and bundled off carefully by her pretty bridesmaid. And yes, they look so beautiful and joyous. In Kerala matrimony, dressing ideas for these pretty ladies would follow the same principle that caters to any other wedding.

The outfit should compliment or match the bridal dress and look. Concisely, their colors and drapes should be in sync with the bride’s colors and the total set should reflect the splash of colors and bridal vibe.

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  • The pink drapes: To begin with, let’s keep it simple. The Kerala bride is draped in a sari like most other Indian brides and her troop need to match that poise and elegance as well. Finding the perfect dress for bridesmaid, saris in this regard, can be an uphill task at times. But, you can follow a simple tip; match the radiant part of the bride’s attire. For example, if the bride is wearing something in pink, then your blouse can be in pink pr fuchsia. The sari can be in dark blue or teal blue. The pink and lavender bridesmaid saris are simply gorgeous.
  • The blue hue: One of the prettiest bridesmaid apparel that you can possibly come across has to be the royal blue drapes. The royal blue saris and golden or silver blouses is a winsome idea. You can put the colorful drapes with shawls and matching dupattas for men. The bridesmaid can perform a short welcome ceremony with floral strings or earthen lamps. It’d make your Kerala matrimony full of happiness and colors. So, dressing simple and smart is the secret.
  • Match the shades: There are many dazzling saris for bridesmaids based on many inspirations. A great way is to opt for fusion ideas. These are modern and rainbow saris for the bridal troop. If the bride is in silver or milky white, the bridesmaids can adorn pink, fuchsia, blue, teal green, sky and creamy white. If the bridal color is partly golden, then orange, blue, green, purple and pink would do the trick.
  • The modern tones: Many girls are of the opinion that if they are to pick their bridesmaid dresses, then they will wear bright pink and dark blue. Hence, the bridesmaid will be dressed in multiple colors. You can also give them a splash of color parasol. These colors are purple, teal green and blue, orange, navy blue and light pink.
  • Blending it with traditions: If your bride is wearing creamy white with red and little golden borders for a change, the bridesmaid will have to be draped in traditional Indian saris. The cut and colors will vary.

Weddings in summer should pleasant apparel design and you can choose green and blue saris for the bridesmaids.

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