Things to keep in mind while dating a girl elder to you

Dating an older woman is a rage these days. For many women above 35, they’ve never felt more coveted by men in their late twenties or early 30s. There are many reasons why men seek to date a girl elder to them. A naïve man will fall for the cougar concept, wink-wink idea and the old elbow-jabbing though that they are more likely to pay for everything. Well, that’s not true as these women have brains and have chosen this space for a reason too. A smart man doesn’t enter into a relationship due to such obscure reasons.

India Dating has come of age and men are seeking to date elder women. Many might have dated women of their age or below, many might had sour relations or trust issues before, but this is a completely new space with bright, new prospects. It’s exciting because the level of camaraderie won’t start as the way it used to. It won’t be cheeky or tacky, but once the dice rolls, I bet there’ll be no looking as the bond can surpass all your previous ones and exceed every expectation. So here are a few things that you need to keep in mind as you set forth to date an elder woman.

 

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  • Remember she’s got her own life: So, don’t try to dupe her by fantasy words, or bluff, or try to impose your notions on her. If you gel well, these things can come naturally and it’s a natural amalgam. She has her career, her own friends, money, and by all means her apartment and car. You mustn’t do anything to show that you’re in a hurry to rob her that way, or you have come for her resources. A woman always likes attention, sincerity, and effort from her man. Make sure you don’t act in haste even if you have that slight avarice running down your brain cells.
  • Just another date: Try to make her comfortable. Don’t conceive an opinion that if she is well-off or affluent, she will take the initiative. Nothing changes really in the world of dating. As the man, you need to pull back the chair and ask her to sit down politely. Put the drinks in her glass and start talking smartly. If you show apprehension or fear, it is not good. There are women who try to make you comfortable, but you can sure take care of that in advance.
  • She can hold herself and perform: On many cases, women have bitter fallouts or past voids that have scarred them. If you know about them, no need to sympathize as she doesn’t like that fact. Rather, help her you to think that’s all past and the times were bad. Right now, you are the moment. Don’t bring back past glimpses or try to dig it up, or try to unravel things which she is not comfortable at. At least, spare your date for all these things. You need to know that she is matured enough and achieved to shun all those problems on her own. She doesn’t require a troubleshooter. Volunteering for that job can backfire, howsoever good the intention might be.

By all means, she is probably wiser than you and more matured. Don’t tell her things that she already knows or try to take her for a trip. That will spell disaster. In India Dating, make sure you don’t hurry up on anything. Just talk, dine, drink and nurture your camaraderie.

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How to manage finances while dating a girl

Dating a girl has not been that easy for the regular guy. Let’s keep it simple. Those who are affluent and filthy rich will find the dating thing a great time passes or pastime even. Honestly, these guys don’t have to work for their resources or think of the means to achieve. They are either born with that money or don’t have to work for that. More often than not, the focus on finances is not there. People who can get them easily will not batter an eyelid to continue with their dating spree, with many girls.

But, for guys who are not born with such resources or who don’t have that affluent background, galvanizing your finances is a very important thing. In your approach to India Dating, you need to see that your job and business is sound or good enough to support your expenses. Then only, you won’t feel financially shattered in the middle of a date or in some work endeavor.

 

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  • Plan your expenses: This is the very first directive. You need to treat the date as another platform of expense. Being honest with you is very important here. You need to know your own condition and capacity of spending. If you a monthly income that supports hangouts in post restaurants and clubs, then all fine. But, if the income is shaky or there are intermittent earnings in bulk, you need to be a little cautious. Planning your expenses in accordance with your income is always the right thing. It applies more here.
  • Fix your fixtures: After fixing the first directive, your aim should be to select the place of date or the places to go. There are certain clubs, lounges, and discotheques that compel you to dish you enormous amounts of money. When you have affirmed your financial condition and ground reality, you’ll know which places to go. This confidence will only come when you have assessed your life in proper terms. There’s no need to hurry or copy others. It’s your life and it’s you who is dating.
  • Know the girl: Make sure she isn’t a leech. There are some girls out there whose sole purpose is to drain you financially. Let’s admit it; you have many such cases happening around you. When you are planning your finances, this is one thing you need to be careful about. You need to talk to the girl before and know about her. A little knowledge about the likes and preferences and the to-do list is most important here.
  • Don’t’ borrow but save: More often than not, there are guys who end up borrowing from their friends to impress their lady love or date. Sometimes, they even steal. This is horrendous and must be avoided at any cost. This is not a litmus test for you and you don’t need to go overboard for your date.

The best thing is to save certain amounts each month and set a target. That target is the amount you’ll spend or use in your dating. You can date more than one girl but you won’t exceed the monetary number. This dedication is important.

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